49: Endless Loops: When Your Relationship Feels Like Groundhog Day (with Manny Wolfe – Part 1)

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Ellen Dorian sits down with speaker, author, and coach Manny Wolfe to explore how early life experiences, unresolved trauma, and subconscious patterns can trap us in relationship dynamics that feel like endless loops. From cult survival to addiction recovery, Manny brings raw honesty and deeply reflective insight into how our past silently shapes our present — especially in love.

This episode offers a candid look at how personal responsibility, emotional awareness, and a willingness to “do the work” can help us break those loops, even when the outcome is still uncertain.

Part 1:

Manny shares his upbringing in a cult, how that shaped his sense of identity and attachment, and how unresolved abandonment trauma created patterns in romantic relationships. Ellen and Manny unpack the way avoidant and anxious attachment styles often magnetize each other, and why so many of us unconsciously recreate the very pain we say we want to avoid.

Part 2:

They explore the story behind Manny’s viral post on the link between financial stress and relationship breakdown — and how some spiritual and psychological narratives can accidentally become excuses for avoiding action.

Part 3:

The conversation shifts toward taking full responsibility — not just for your healing, but for your choices. Manny shares the moment he realized that his “abandonment wound” might have been a red herring, distracting him from deeper, more practical issues. Together, they highlight how emotional insight and grounded strategy need to work together — not in opposition.

Key Takeaways:

• Relationship patterns often trace back to unconscious childhood beliefs and unprocessed trauma.
• Avoidant and anxious attachment styles often attract each other — creating a painful but familiar dynamic.
• Financial issues are rarely just about money — but they're also not always about deep trauma.
• Healing is essential, but it’s not a substitute for taking real-world action.
• Long-term relationships are containers for growth — not just safe harbors.
• You can't force someone else to change, but you can be an influence and an inspiration.

Call to Action:

If this conversation struck a chord and you're ready to break your own loop — whether it’s emotional, financial, or relational — set up your free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. In just 15 minutes, you’ll clarify your next move and leave with actionable steps that fit your real life.

🗓️ Book now at: relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

Your past may explain your patterns — but it doesn’t have to dictate your future. When you see the loop, you can step outside it. And when you take personal responsibility, you stop waiting to be rescued and start building the love you actually want.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'"

— Ellen Dorian

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