Marriage, when you really think about it, is kind of absurd.
You meet someone, date for a bit, spend a fortune on a wedding, and then commit to spending your entire life together—without a roadmap and with a 50% failure rate.
It’s crazy, right?
But here’s the kicker: Leaning into that absurdity might be the secret to a thriving relationship.
After working with countless couples, I’ve noticed a common thread—relationships don’t fail because love disappears. They fail because fun disappears.
That’s where The Absurdity Principle comes in. It’s about breaking out of routines, bringing back playfulness, and making joy a priority.
Here are three simple (but powerful) ways to inject more fun into your relationship starting now.
1️⃣ The Surrender Date: Shake Up the Routine
When was the last time you and your partner had a date that wasn’t just dinner and a movie?
A surrender date flips the script. One partner takes full control of the date—choosing everything from outfits to activities—while the other simply goes along for the ride. No questions, no negotiations.
Why It Works:
✅ Builds trust by letting go of control
✅ Adds mystery and excitement
✅ Breaks you out of predictable patterns
How to Try It:
👗 The Full Experience – One person plans every detail, start to finish.
👕 Blindfolded Outfit Challenge – Choose your partner’s outfit while they’re blindfolded (brace for surprises!).
🎭 Something New Challenge – Pick an activity neither of you has ever done before.
💡 Ideas: Axe throwing, retro arcade, roller skating, a themed dinner night, or dressing in costumes for mini golf.
The goal? Get out of your routine and into something unexpected.
2️⃣ Whose Line Is It Anyway? (Couples Edition)
If improv comedy and great relationships have one thing in common, it’s this: They thrive on spontaneity.
The happiest couples laugh together—a lot. Injecting playfulness into everyday interactions creates instant connection.
Fun Improv Games to Try:
🎭 Questions Only – Have a conversation where you can only ask questions.
🎩 Scenes from a Hat – Act out random scenarios (like "strangers stuck in an elevator").
📦 Props – Find an everyday object and invent ridiculous new uses for it.
Bonus Game: Undercover Roleplay – Head out in public pretending to be strangers on a first date. Use fake names and backstories for a hilarious, fresh perspective on each other.
It might feel silly at first—but that’s the point.
3️⃣ Get Physical: Movement = Chemistry
Fun doesn’t have to be all mind games—getting physical together naturally increases attraction and connection.
💪 Couples Workouts – Try a partner workout or couples yoga.
💃 Dance Classes – Salsa, swing, or just freestyle in the living room.
🎨 Body Painting Night – Because why not?
⛸ Childhood Throwbacks – Roller skating, sledding, or water balloon fights.
When you move together, you bond together. Plus, it’s a great way to boost your mood and relieve stress.
How to Start Right Now
🔹 Start Small – Add just one playful element to your week.
🔹 Schedule It – Yes, spontaneity is great, but sometimes you have to plan for fun like you did when you were dating.
🔹 Push Through the Awkwardness – It might feel weird at first, but lean into it.
When you make playfulness a habit, everything else in your relationship becomes easier—communication flows, intimacy deepens, and you remember why you fell in love in the first place.
So don’t wait for the perfect moment or ideal date night—just start.
Laugh your way through the awkwardness, and watch the energy between you shift in real time.
After all, your relationship is already built on an absurd premise—why not embrace it and have some fun along the way?
